You got it, I got kicked out of support group. Those who know me understand that having a whiny and self pitying attitude is not my thing. I have always been one who believed that you just pick yourself up, don't complain, and move on. No matter the circumstances.You get what you give... so to speak. So it should come as no surprise that I would get kicked from a support group that wallowed in self pity, and woe is me.
The support group is for stroke survivors. The problem is that this group wasn't really supportive, it was more like a whining session for self pity zealots. I couldn't really take it very well. All of the incessant feel sorry for me posts.
The straw that broke the proverbial camels back, a post from a stroke survivor. He was complaining that his family, wife and children did not want to be around him. That he was lonely and depressed. His wife didn't love him anymore and his children were indifferent to him. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
Well I tried to be kind, "your wife and kids need time too, this is traumatic for them as well". Most of the other posts were about the same as his, no one loves me, I have no friends, everyone hates me...
He continued on about.. feel sorry for me, I can't do....etc. etc.
I had reached my limit. I posted to him that this self pity was getting him no where, that feeling sorry for your self was unbecoming. I posted that he probably was like this before the stroke and shouldn't use it as a means of guilting his kids into spending time with him. They probably didn't like him before the stroke anyway, if he was like this. As for his wife, she also couldn't stand him before either, and now really resented him . In other words he was already a jerk .
The next day I was blocked. Oh well I really didn't need it anyway, I have support, and I sure as hell never felt sorry for myself. If I did though, I hope that someone would tell me like it is.
The support group is for stroke survivors. The problem is that this group wasn't really supportive, it was more like a whining session for self pity zealots. I couldn't really take it very well. All of the incessant feel sorry for me posts.
The straw that broke the proverbial camels back, a post from a stroke survivor. He was complaining that his family, wife and children did not want to be around him. That he was lonely and depressed. His wife didn't love him anymore and his children were indifferent to him. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.
Well I tried to be kind, "your wife and kids need time too, this is traumatic for them as well". Most of the other posts were about the same as his, no one loves me, I have no friends, everyone hates me...
He continued on about.. feel sorry for me, I can't do....etc. etc.
I had reached my limit. I posted to him that this self pity was getting him no where, that feeling sorry for your self was unbecoming. I posted that he probably was like this before the stroke and shouldn't use it as a means of guilting his kids into spending time with him. They probably didn't like him before the stroke anyway, if he was like this. As for his wife, she also couldn't stand him before either, and now really resented him . In other words he was already a jerk .
The next day I was blocked. Oh well I really didn't need it anyway, I have support, and I sure as hell never felt sorry for myself. If I did though, I hope that someone would tell me like it is.
